Too Paranoid?

[Clairy]

hello :]
i just wanna ask you all..
do you feel really emotional when you get harsh comments? even if it's meant to be a joke?

recently my boyfriend has been really mean (in my opinion) and saying i'm really thick and stuff and as a result, i'm becoming really paranoid in trying to make myself better and with any criticism (can't spell, lol) i get, i take it to heart.
also when i'm talking to people, i think they're losing interest when i speak, am i really too paranoid or worrying too much or does anyone else have this?
also, what's everyone's confidence levels like?
as for me, i have zilch confidence!

xxx

[Standingtall]

I use to be very bad at taking everything personal, even if it was not directed at me. I have thicker skin now, but every now and then i let it bother me.

My one sister was making an comment about our brother and how hard of a struggle he has had and going through. I don't know if she makes comments about me in that way to our other siblings, but she does not really understand the struggle I had and compared to most of my siblings, i am very successful in life.

The best advice i can give, is be yourself, even if you others think you are thick or witty, etc.. Your boyfriend was attracted to who you are and you don't have to change for him. If you want a change something about yourself, change it for yourself. You have to live with yourself afterwards. Well that is my 2 cents and half. :D

[Clairy]

thank you very much :]
yeah it's really hard to take it sometimes eh?
thank you for your advice, i think i'll do that - i just wanted to know if anyone else does it or that.
and i'm chuffed to hear you're successful in life :D :D
xxxx

[JDRow]

I think it's sort of a two-way thing. I do think I take what people say too seriously and let it bother me too much.

But I also think that it's rude to joke about something you know another person feels bad about. I know there are things my sister and my girlfriend and my friends don't like about themselves and feel badly about, and I would never joke about it or anything like that. To me, that's a rude thing to do, and then to blame the other person for taking offense is even ruder. I think that I do need to be less sensitive about what other people say to or about me, but I also feel like people need to think sometimes before they talk or joke. Even if it's only meant to be funny, making fun of something that another person feels bad about just seems immature and mean.