Weird reaction from my boss as work yesterday.

[happy7117]

I absolutley love the co-employees that I work with. They are a great group of people.

But my boss who truly is wicked nice made a comment that sort of shook me up that makes me wish I had a device damn it!

I've been pretty tolerant at the fact I have no money to afford a device, so I have been doing my daily suffering!

My boss made the comment when I was stuttering: "are you stressed Adam, you feel OK"

I didn't know how to respond, so I said nothing.

I was deeply angered that a great guy like him had to comment on the stuttering.

I love the guy, but ever since I heard that comment, it makes me want a device more than ever.

And without a device, I'm up the creek without a paddle.

I know I'll be bashed probably for bringing up "a device is the only way for me", but I had to get it off my chest.

I feel like ringing these people's necks who have these devices ALREADY that stutter themselves and they charge thousands.

I have avoided stuff since 2001 since my stutter crap took a nosedive.

All because of the lack of fluent speech.

If people don't want to provide us stutterers with a much needed device at a reasonable price, they should go to hell.

[DKoz]

It doesn't sound that bad happy but it would be a lot worse if he chuckled at your stutter or said some outrageous comment.

I remember back in high school when my stuttering was the worse, some classmates of mine signed me up for CAPS (Canadian Association for People who Stutter) and CAPS was sending me info in the mail. But I was pissed cause that was low and passive aggressive, if they have a problem with my stutter they should say it to my face.

But it sounds like you work with great people who look past the fact you stutter. There are lots of people out there who are in their 40s and are less mature then teenagers. Don't let is bother you man because it might make your stutter worse.

Do you have a website link for this device?

[202]

if only they knew how horrible it is to be a stutterer they wouldnt charge such an outrageous price...... unfortunately, as all stutterers know, there are truly wicked cruel people in this world that take delight in others misery

[DKoz]

if only they knew how horrible it is to be a stutterer they wouldnt charge such an outrageous price...... unfortunately, as all stutterers know, there are truly wicked cruel people in this world that take delight in others misery

Thankfully those jerks are very rare...

[Derek181]

man i wouldnt get so hyped up over it. Every person who i have talked to that owns one tries it out for a little while and then doesnt wear it anymore and stutters the same as they always did.

[jak]

happy maybee you just took what he said the wrong way ? Did you look stressed out ? I myself had to learn to be less sensitive about my own speech when talking to others in person and on the phone because people dont understand and if you get upset over every look or stare or coment that people make to you ,it just makes you crazy,remember your job is a way to make money and what they think of you is not important .If you really think a device will cure you then take out a loan and get one

[Bill Hargis]

I have heard negative comments about the device but it was a life changer for me. I have worn it off and on for six years. It is worth a try. I was as severe as any stutterer ever was, after wearing it for a year I became almost fluent without it. I still use it in stressful situations.

[nate]

I was once told about the "habit" that pws have of assigning the worst possible intention to any reference, real or percieved to their speech. Even now I find it so hard to say that I stammer even though its more obvious obvious than the sun in the in the sky on clear day at noon.
I know alot of non-stammerers who just look stressed without stammering. So how do I know they are stressed. Becasue their face looks pinched? Or their eyelid twitches? Or they are snarling at everyone?
Were you snarling at everyone?:p

It doesnt have to be about your speech and since he is such a nice guy it probably isnt. Brush it off.
As for the speecheasy, I am from Africa, its just plain unavailable here. But there are worse things to stress about. In Sudan alone more than half the population have no (thats zero) access to any modern healthcare, 1% people will die randomly before the age of 40. thats like saying all the pws in america will die before the age of 40. By the time you read this 2 children will die from a disease that costs as little as $4 to prevent-malaria. The speech easy device inventors are not the real animals, the multinational pharmaceutical companies are.

I searched for this post that once touched me so deeply:

Cheated out of life? Hardly.
Inconvenienced on a daily basis? Definitely.

I have a speech disorder that makes communication consistanly difficult and frustrating. I have avoided social situations out of shame and anxiety. I will probably have to live with it for the rest of my life.

It causes me no physical pain, it does not inhibit my mobility, it does not make me cry myself to sleep, it is not infectious, it is not hereditary, it is not communicable, it is not fatal, it is not unsightly, it does not frighten children or the elderly (weird looks don't count), it will not cost me my job, it will not automatically make me a social pariah (unlesss I let it), it does not require weekly trips to the hospital for treatment, it does not require consistant medication with considerable side-effects, it does not affect my sex-drive, it will not get progressively worse and it is not completely out of my ability to control.

I have friends and family members who cannot say the same thing.

Life is not convenient or fair. Noone asks for illness or affliction, but that doesn't exempt anyone from it.

If the worst thing in your life is social anxiety from stuttering, count your blessings.

Chillax Happy
Nate

[Power of three]

I was once told about the "habit" that pws have of assigning the worst possible intention to any reference, real or percieved to their speech. Even now I find it so hard to say that I stammer even though its more obvious obvious than the sun in the in the sky on clear day at noon.
I know alot of non-stammerers who just look stressed without stammering. So how do I know they are stressed. Becasue their face looks pinched? Or their eyelid twitches? Or they are snarling at everyone?
Were you snarling at everyone?:p

It doesnt have to be about your speech and since he is such a nice guy it probably isnt. Brush it off.
As for the speecheasy, I am from Africa, its just plain unavailable here. But there are worse things to stress about. In Sudan alone more than half the population have no (thats zero) access to any modern healthcare, 1% people will die randomly before the age of 40. thats like saying all the pws in america will die before the age of 40. By the time you read this 2 children will die from a disease that costs as little as $4 to prevent-malaria. The speech easy device inventors are not the real animals, the multinational pharmaceutical companies are.

I searched for this post that once touched me so deeply:



Chillax Happy
Nate

I think that there are many people on this forum who should take notice of your words Nate.

Well said.

[happy7117]

I have heard negative comments about the device but it was a life changer for me. I have worn it off and on for six years. It is worth a try. I was as severe as any stutterer ever was, after wearing it for a year I became almost fluent without it. I still use it in stressful situations.

I don't let negative comments about devices turn me away. Possibly it is because a device did not work for them is why they had a negative experience.

Not every device will work or everyone because every stutter is different.

Looks like you found the right device that suits your needs.

Sounds like it has carry-over effect as well when not wearing it.

I need something that has carry-over effect.

A loan sounds like the right idea too, since I don't have a few thous.

Speecheasy will NOT be for me, I have a ton of silent stoppages. I hear Speecheasy does not help with silent stoppages or silent blocks.

Fluency Master helps with any and all kinds of stuttering but it's a bitch of a price $4,400

[Be YOURSELF]

you should have told him, "i'm ok, i.m not stressed, do i look stressed?" are you sure you are not over reacting?, stutterers are usually to sensitive to comments, jokes etc. or maybe he is just not used to you stuttering that bad,? ( maybe because you are very good at hiding it) covert stutterer?

[Standingtall]

you should have told him, "i'm ok, i.m not stressed, do i look stressed?" are you sure you are not over reacting?, stutterers are usually to sensitive to comments, jokes etc. or maybe he is just not used to you stuttering that bad,? ( maybe because you are very good at hiding it) covert stutterer?
I agree Adam, i think you were overacting. Maybe he was really concerned, maybe you were blocking more than usually. I can usually judge a person's if he/she is being concerned or not. A friend told me, the reason you work so you can borrow money. So, try and get that loan, unless you have not paid off your 6 bedroom penthouse. :D

[tb1223]

I agree with the consensus here. One time I accidentally deleted some very important files from my laptop. I took the laptop to the computer help center on campus to see if there was anything I could do to get them back. While I was explaining the problem to the employee there, I stuttered a lot (of course). I should note that I'm a pretty easy-going person, and I almost never get angry...while some people might have been very distressed or agitated about losing the files, I was very calm and not too worried about it. Anyway, the employee asked me: "Are you upset, or is this normal?" ("this" being a reference to my stuttering). I laughed and said it was normal. At first I was kind of irritated that he would ask something like that, but I quickly realized that he was just being thoughtful and kind.

Should we really get upset anytime somebody acknowledges the fact that we stutter? Should everyone just ignore it and pretend it doesn't exist? I for one don't think so.

[Bill Hargis]

Yes speecheasy does help with silent blocks and stops.